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Let's consider some reasons;
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1. God needs you
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Hold on, don't get pissed off with this first point, it is just the truth, no relationship worked for me until I came back to God and to do His will or work, He may also be using that to get your attention. And if He doesn't, you'll surely need Him. It's just better you submit your will to Him.
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2. You don't know what you want
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You might be still single because you are looking for the best and you don’t want to settle for average or even above average choices. So sad to see how many people settle for incorrect choices just to get into a relationship which is something that ruins the relationship later on.
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3. Your expectations are too high
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Your expectations are so high and so you believe you deserve someone who is at least, as elite as you, and those people are rare (according to their own point of view). I'm not saying you shouldn't aim high but should be moderate and realistic.
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"I am a medical doctor, I cannot marry a man/woman lesser than that, how can I as a lawyer belittle my status and marry an unlearned person (since lawyers say they are the learned people)". You're there looking for a professional while God is calling you to marry those you tagged less professional, you are just interested in showing off, that's why you want those profession only.
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4. You’re shallow
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I'm sorry but permit me to use the word shallow. This is different from having high standards in that being shallow means you’re willing to give certain persons the time of day if they can offer you something in exchange. You're not talking about unconditional love and support but fancy dinners, fabulous trips, designer bags, and other superficial trappings that are exciting, sure they're good, but don’t lay the groundwork for a strong, meaningful relationship.
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If the only thing you think of for a partner is someone who can shower you in expensive stuff, you’re not thinking like a wife, you’re thinking like a teenaged girl and men of character do not want to marry teenagers because teenage girls are not fit for marriage.
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5. Your criteria is tight
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You might be still single because your criteria is so tight and you might be looking for a non existent potential partners. I've seen that many 'fall' in love with those who match a list in their minds called the subconscious list. The moment one or two things on the list is/are missing in that person, its a no.
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Let's continue tomorrow so it won't be lengthy, start checking yourself to make adjustments.
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Shalom
Oluwatoyin Adebowale
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